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This product focuses exclusively on conversations and ways to improve them.

Vin DiCarlo’s teaching style is to help you acquire skills through drills, ie through practice and exercises that gradually increase in difficulty. For this you need the right environment, and DiCarlo believes it shouldn’t be done in the field but in a safe, controlled and sympathetic atmosphere.

In this product you can see how that works. It is shot in a mid-size seminar room, with a few different coaches and guest teachers. Three male students and three female "volunteers" are involved. For each technique taught, the guys go through a series of exercise and practice with the girls, with help and input from the coaches.

Format: Annoying but Also Beneficial

While I’m sure it is effective for actual "live" students, at first I thought this format would be very annoying to watch on video, and indeed it is, at times. One big downside: they can only teach a new tip or technique every 10 or 20 minutes, because the exercises take a while and each guy has to go through them. Often it feels like you are wasting your time watching the three of them fail and stumble through words.

Some of the exercises also feel pointless - girls make up a lie, guys need to find out the lie by asking questions, and this goes on for 30 mins on DVD 2…

BUT having said that… I eventually found it beneficial to see the mistakes made, and the coaches use each mistake to point out ways to apply the techniques better. It’s like a complete Q&A and troubleshooting after each technique. So what you may lose in scope and speed, you gain in thorough understanding and clarity. The three guys also have different ages, personality and sticking points, so the listener can identify and relate to at least some of them and see how they make progress.

Good Storytelling Techniques

The storytelling techniques and exercises were particularly good on DVD 3 & 4. Stories are important as a tool for state transfer and to create an emotional connection with your audience. The products shines here: the story-telling techniques are both helpful and easy to remember and implement.

The guys are taught to calibrate, charge the story emotionally, avoid trailing off, structure and pace the story, the role of the punchline, etc etc. They also practice balancing emotional projection/elicitation with the proper amount of sexual tension. Here you can really see how a little bit of training makes a world of difference, as the guys’ stories take shape and get much better in minutes. Injecting emotions instead of facts just works, and the drills make that very clear, as well as show you how easy it is to implement.

Creating Sexual Ambiguity and Tension

The guys then practice using ambiguous/sensual words to create a subconscious sexual vibe and further amp the tension. This is not talking about sex, but talking about normal things in a sexual way, and it is a quite humorous and interesting session:

Guys get a list of sexual-sounding words (deep, wet, pounding, thick, creamy, etc) that they use to "juice" up their stories and give them sexual overtones. This is an excellent technique to create sexual ambiguity under the radar, and while I have done this on occasions naturally, I had never thought of doing this on purpose for an extended period of time.

DVD 5 discusses role playing, or how to make a woman enter an imaginary scenario and take her on a fun adventure. This makes you stand out from the usual banter. It helps you escalate physically much faster too, as you get into instant roles of boyfriend/girlfriend, doctor/nurse, etc.

You also learn how to bluff your way through a cold reading, and use that as a tool to connect (which is not really my cup of tea, but it’s the first time I saw it explained in a not-too-creepy way here, I almost feel like trying it).

More useful tricks are taught here, including “shaping” and “flipping the script”, which were also described briefly in DiCarlo's ebook The Attraction Code .

On DVD 6 & 7, guest speaker IN10SE does a bit of NLP 101 and explains value elicitation. He teaches how to go beyond the superficial level to create deeper connections faster. This wasn't bad but honestly I was expecting more from 2 hours of IN10SE than the basic stuff he gives away here.

Failed Advice on Winning Arguments

Finally, on DVD 8 we get some "fight simulations" games – which I though was a big waste of time, and more than a bit creepy. The coach (Jeff Foxx) is basically teaching you to lie your ass off or fake being angry in order to "win" arguments. Not the most healthy mindset there. In my experience, once you get good and if you want multiple women in your life, just learn how to manage multiple open relationships and save yourself the drama.

There was a useful hidden lesson on this DVD, though: how much more naturally prepared the girls are, as you see them basically toy around with the guys even though the guys are being coached how to "win" (none of them is winning anything, they get destroyed every single time).

A Very Hands-on Approach

Overall, the last few DVDs are not as good as the first ones, and we would have liked a faster pace and more techniques included. Still,this was a good watch and it is a great product for newbies and intermediates.

It is a very hands-on programme – not a lot of theory, just simple techniques that work, explained at length. You can see them immediately applied which helps a great deal internalizing them. In some ways this could be more useful than getting a super-exhaustive product listing 1476 techniques that you just get overwhelmed with.

One problem is the price tag: at 497 bucks, this isn't cheap compared to other products, and it's certainly not the best value for money. Then again you are maybe paying a premium for one of the few video products out there focusing on this skillset.