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I took a TSM bootcamp with Nick and the other coaches 30 days ago. I just got back home tonight with a few numbers from some cute girls and really, the important aspect here is that I took the action I was taught during the bootcamp to go up to these girls, talk with them and then eventually, go for the number. I’ll know later today which are legit/work out and which flake, but for now, I still consider the actions and boldness taken, up until the number exchange, as reflections of the bootcamp’s result. A changed mindset and an improved me. (sounds cheesy, but hey, most good things in life do!)


Thursday

When I got to the studio with my partner-in-crime for the weekend, we became acquainted with Nick and then went over the 6 steps of Fearless. It was all really useful and succinct – a bit different from the Fearless seminar in NYC in the winter, and additionally, the repetition was really helpful b/c of how essential these are to a guy’s pick up progress and success. We then broke until evening when we met at Jon’s place, had some mixed music goin on (Dave Mathews included of course) and we practiced what Nick taught us earlier, but now LIVE with some of the female instructors, Jodie and Marina. Yes, this felt really strange and awkward at first, like practicing a speech in front of a mirror…but then, it got better, we got better and looser, and in the end, I felt it really did help. So if you do a bootcamp in the future and get weirded out here, just go with it, haha. Just getting feedback and KNOWING what it FEELS LIKE when you’re loose and comfortable - and what it should feel like from a calibration standpoint – begins to alter your frame of reference. For me, throughout the weekend, one main objective was staying in the moment and just going with it, rather than being in my head. (Easier said than done, true, but definitely got better over the bootcamp.)

Later that night, we went out with Nick and Evan. The night was really fun and I must say, the bootcamp may be worth it just to experience Nick’s multiple “Spartacus-meets-Braveheart-worthy” inspiring speeches about our growth, our lives and women. Also, Nick kept us on our feet and always kept the party goin – no matter what the deal was at the bar! ☺ Got some convos and numbers in, and it was a really solid night.

Friday

We met up with Nick in the early afternoon and the best thing about walking in this time, was that the coaches and I already knew what my biggest hang ups were, including slowing down, pause…buffering (or as Adam calls it, “just shutting up” ☺), leaning back and some other things, which all connote neediness. I worked on those aspects essentially until the end of the bootcamp, though adding in some escalation tips and whatnot once we got those under our belts.

Friday night we had some more female coaching but now the TSM unpacked the big guns – we had 6 coaches come out with us, all of whom also helped criticize (constructively, of course) our approaches/interactions with the female coaches, and Jon was there for the commenting session too. This night was also a good learning experience, I got to feel a bit of the “pull back” and the girl’s chase Nick wanted me to really work on, and it was just a blast to be around Sunney, Danny, Nick, Adam, Jon and Brian. Oh, and just to mention, the coaches all stayed out past 2am, the official cut off time of the bootcamp every night, so I wanna give em props for their dedication ;) love you guys.

Saturday

You’d think by Saturday, the 4-5 hours of sleep a night would get to me…but it hadn’t. I just stayed pumped b/c the weekend wasn’t as daunting as it was inspiring and enjoyable. Today we went over escalation, with Nick leading and other coaches piping in with their own tips here and there. All of it came together really nicely and was incredibly informative. I mean, you can read some of this in the TSM programs, but there’s definitely some stuff you have to experience in person. For example, when Nick puts out all his mojo to “demonstrate” his sexual powers on you…all I’ll say is it’s super powerful lol. And also, of course, you get to ask them any and all q’s you have so that comes in handy.

Sat night was probably one of the loosest and more productive nights for me in terms of all the info coming together, working cohesively, as well as just the amount of risks I took. In retrospect, I potentially could have taken even more, but really, I’m proud of the progress I made and the amount of work, risks and rejections (1 half face slap…but she misunderstood/was drunk and it’s just funny story, honest :p…) I put in. Of course, all the coaches and the other guy on the program all helped me with that progress, so I thank all of them immensely for this weekend and their time :D

Sunday

This was brunch (with any q’s we had) + day game. Danny was great in helping us with the day game – kinda his thang – and really we had the opportunity to ask him anything we wanted. We did some exercises, some approaches, and some wrap-up talks about the weekend and our futures. Danny actually wouldn’t leave until WE were ready to throw in the towel for the day, going as long as we wanted. Alas, I had a prior-engagement with a friend in the early evening so I bid Danny and my “teammate” farewell and off I disappeared into the dark depths of the NYC subway system.


For anyone wondering, yes, I did get numbers and I did get a makeout over the weekend, and I could have taken things further, but I’m not talking about that because that is not what was most important to me from my expectations before the bootcamp. It’s also not what I felt were part of the most crucial breakthroughs during the bootcamp. TSM coaches know their stuff and can hook you up with girls if that’s what you want, but for me, I wanted to, as Nick might put it, be “taught how to fish rather than be given a bunch of fish.” And by fishing, I mean connecting with and dating high quality girls.

Awareness – I’ve definitely felt more awareness in the weeks since the bootcamp. I took the awareness factor for granted before the bootcamp. I thought I had a pretty good self-awareness and I could tell if a girl was interested in me or not. But truthfully, I have an infinitely better understanding now. For example, I was moving out of my dorm with my sister, and this cute girl walked into the elevator. She had earplugs in and I asked her if she’s moved out yet. She said she doesn’t live in the dorm, and I just didn’t feel like continuing the convo since I was with my sister and whatever, so I stop talking. Then she continued talking about moving out Freshman year (reinitiating convo) afterwards and I would not have understood before the bootcamp that clearly she liked me because of this action/continued convo even though I didn’t encourage it. Very powerful feeling to recognize small things like this immediately and know that I could have taken this to a date the next day if I wanted. Another example has to do with my friend and she revealed a lot of deeper info with me that night after the bootcamp ended on Sunday, and it was due mainly to the Fearless principles I implemented that night when we hung out – eye contact, mirroring, pulling back, deeper and more touching. Of course, Looseness too which is related to all of this. I feel like suddenly I have a lot more control over my relationships and new interactions than I did before and I really love the TSM guys and gals responsible for opening my eyes to this.

Nick, Jon, Sunny, Danny, Adam, Brian, Marina, Evan, and Jodie…thanks for making this an incredibly fun and lifechanging experience. You pointed me in the right direction and opened up a new road I now need to work my way down until I reach the end. I certainly feel more confident and aware of all the obstacles around me as I head down that path, and I wish everyone else reading this post as much enlightenment as I’ve received, and as much future success as I’m working towards. Or better yet, if you’re in NYC, hit me up and we’ll go have a baller time. Catch ya’ll later ☺

Nick is such a breath of fresh air for anyone who's spent any amount of time in "the community." I'd read his material online for years before ever meeting him in person and I was nervous about how it would go. I paid him what I considered to be a huge compliment when I said "you seem like just a normal, awesome dude." He does not seem like a PUA (nor is he) and instead just seems like an awesome guy you'd want to hang out with (and learn from).

His "method" (if it can be called that) is basically stripping away all the bullshit you've accumulated (from places like the community). He reconnects you with that part of yourself that is real, instead of just the thoughts in your head that derail you. It's for that reason that I put "ease of implementation" as a 3/10. To me, that 3/10 is way better than a 10/10. His work is hard. You can't just memorize some dumb pickup line. Memorizing a line is easy. Truly connecting with yourself and bringing that energy into your experiences with women, that's hard. Note that it is simple - there's not a long list of steps - but simple does not equal easy. You've got to be ready to be really you. Not in some cheesy self-help way, but in an authentic and masculine way.

Over the course of the weekend, one guy confronted the loss of his wife and his re-entry into the dating world. Another broke down into tears and emerged on the other side stronger and more confident for coming face to face with some old held beliefs. I became more comfortable - and even empowered - sharing some of my darker masculine energy with the world, in a respectful way that listens to my partner.

This is not like other material out there and it doesn't try to be. You've likely read the PUA stuff already. You've learned lines and techniques and gimmicky things to get women, but still you're here on this forum looking for more answers. Nick can help you strip away all that useless shit you've learned and reconnect with the awesome dance of a man and woman coming together, in whatever way feels good to them.

Nick did not teach me anything, instead, he REMINDS me of what I own, my power and my strength from within.

A lot of the preparation work is self-care, where I learned how to observe my own emotions, and take care of the emotional hurricanes inside me. My brain often labels my power as "bad feelings". The self-care work takes care of myself, making sure I'm getting enough rest and stuff.

I came to understand that the most attractive trait I have is my personality. Nick’s method embraces the nervousness and fear, so I can show my personality to the people around me.

Nick reminds me of what is sexy. It is slow and calm, cool and collected. Embracing silence and waiting three seconds before you talk just upgrades me to a new level of sexy being. I don’t need to impress her by acting like a clown, instead just stay engaged and lead her to talk more. This is the biggest difference I felt.

There are many seduction materials out there, but Nick can bring about a unique emotional experience that changes the fundamentals of you, so you feel alive.

Hi Value for your money is a 9. For some reason I cannot click on the Value for your money rating. It's a bit expensive, but it's fair for what you get.

Nick Sparks' Sparks of Attraction coaching is a life changing experience. Nick places an emphasis on being yourself, letting go of your insecurities, and strengthening communication skills. This was my first time taking a formal coaching class. I took the weekend class in Austin, Texas, and loved it!

Nick is friendly, charismatic and provides great constructive criticism. I really benefitted from his class, and made some new friends while I was there. During the day, we did exercises with his female associates to establish a foundation. Then at night we went out in Austin (which is a great city to visit) and practiced what we learned. Nick is well prepared with material, and provides helpful guidance throughout the entire weekend. He pushes you to go outside your comfort zone, and the benefits are immeasurable.

Before taking this course, I always felt like I could get more out of my love life. I was disappointed, therefore, I decided to get some help. I am completely satisfied with my decision and would recommend this course to anyone looking to improve their relationships with women, and other people in general. It is not easy to do, but if you remember your training, you will get better at making new friends, appreciating other people, and just get more out of life.

The best part about this course is that it is not about becoming someone you are not. On the contrary it is about becoming more comfortable with yourself. This course not only improved my love life significantly and immediately, but has also made me a better human being. I hope you choose to take this course. You will not regret it!

I had been looking forward to working with Nick for a while. I had
read his articles and a friend did a program a while back speaking only
great things about him. All this intrigued me even more to work with
Nick.

However, I have been in the “community” for a while and done a few
Bootcamps (4 or 5…and some with (so called) TOP companies…) not yielding
much results, so I needed to be sure that this was right for me, and
not another marketing scheme.

I talked to Nick around 5 times on Skype (yes..5 times!!) and both
his charisma and assurance that I would get where I want if a) I work
with him and b) I go back and practice what he asks me to , left it very
hard for me to say no…his energy and excitement is contagious..!! Next
thing I knew I was on my way to New York!!

All in all, the weekend was amazing…!! And I don’t mean that in a
Bootcamp high sort of amazing, I truly believe that if I continue
working with Nick closely and working on what he ask’s me to, I can get
where I want to in my dating life and success with women.

Nick’s focus is simple, be someone who can approach fearlessly,
understanding that some people will simply not like you (for their own
reasons), while others will (again for their own reasons), and once you
find someone you “click” with, simply enjoy a great conversation with
them (using the effective conversation skills he teaches you), and
amplify the sexuality if you feel turned on by them (again he will teach
you all this). Simple!! Yet very effective..!!

Since I have returned, the reaction’s I’m getting from women are very
different. I realise that my conversations are 100 times better. I can
talk to people with more connection, really listening to what they say,
and trying to understand each unqiue person I talk to, rather than
trying to apply a certain “formula” like I was before (even though Nick
will give you certain “techniques” to help you improve your
conversations”. I also know how to turn things sexual when I meet a girl
I have chemistry with.

One of the greatest things about this program, and this MUST NOT be under-rated, is the support you receive afterwards.
In almost all of the Bootcamps I did before, the instructors teach you
the bootcamp, and you don’t hear from them afterwards..!!..And if you
do, then you need to pay more money..!! Not with Nick..!! Nick is
committed to working with you for the rest of your life when it gets to
getting this area of your life handled…you don’t have to pay him any
more for another phone consultation, or to ask him questions via e-mail,
he is committing to helping you however he can to get you where you
want.

I have to say that Nick’s extremely strong determination to get you where you want is very rare, and refreshing.
I emailed him 5 days or so after the Bootcamp saying that we should have
a Skype session on the weekend to work out a clear path for me to
follow…he replied that he wanted to do it sooner, as he wanted something
for me to practice FOR the weekend.
This sort of enthusiasm and energy to helping you achieve the success
you want is extremely rare in this “dating advice” market…so PLEASE,
PLEASE guys, if you get the chance to work with Nick, use this support
he offers wisely.

And almost lastly, this program cannot be summed up without
mentioning Christina Berkeley, who was amazing assisting our Bootcamp.
Her calm energy, understanding and knowledge of how relating between men
and women works best, together with her strong presence, went together
very well with Nick. The two made a great teaching pair. When she left
on Saturday afternoon, it almost felt as if something was missing from
our team…but we still got together and rocked the night..!

And lastly, I wanted to shout out to my fellow brothers and Bootcamp
Alumni’s…without them this Bootcamp would not have been so special.
Throughout the two days we bonded really well, and helped and pushed
each other as much as we possibly could. We formed a very good “bond”
which I am eager to harness.We are all determined to keep in touch to
ensure we all succeed.

All in all, my final words, if you’re thinking about working with
Nick, or if you’ve done Bootcamp’s with other companies which haven’t
yielded the results you wanted AND if you ARE committed to going back
and working on what Nick asks you to, then I totally totally recommend
this program. It is not a quick fix but I am confident it will get you
where you want to.

I have told myself, that I will write another review in a month, to
contrast to this review, so that you can all see the progress I have
made since the Bootcamp!! This is something I will definitely do…so look
out for my post in one month’s time…

Thanks…and good luck to you all

Oh…I wanted to mention one more thing…if any of you have not been to
New York before (like me, before the program), then make sure you try
taking off an extra 4-5 days to get to see New York too!! It’s a great
city, with so much vibrancy and energy…make sure you check it out..!!